Why are guys so lame?
There is such a difference between what a woman would do in a situation and what a man does. Really? I mean, really?!
There is no answer to this question, ask me again when I am 90 and I hope I will have an answer for you.
There are all these funny little witticisms about men being inept, like the one about men being like a bottle of wine and needing 30 years before it turns into something you want to have dinner with. But really? Are these saying true? Are men really so hopeless?
If so, what is the point of a relationship? It's easier to be single and not have to deal with some fool who just ends up being someone else that you need to take care of, an added burden.
And then, I see some men, the ones that would be equivalent to the good aged wines, who are actually fine specimens of male. They have grown up. Somewhere along the line there was a woman who had to work and forgive and understand and accept in order for that guy to evolve into a man. Right?
If that is the trade-off, I don't want to do that. I expect more out of a partner.
And do guys know how lame they are? Then how come they don't change?
Part of it, I am sure, is that women don't expect more out of them. In general women have such low standards and will accept all sorts of disrespectful behaviour from guys, so they don't grow, why should they? It takes a special evolved soul to grow without the promise of reward or the threat of punishment, solely from the love of growth and God.
So really, the question must be asked: why are girls so lame?
Spiritual education. Spiritual weakness. Spiritual growth.
Our whole society is affected by this malady and it creates lame guys (and gals). But I'm just concerned with the lame guy aspect, as it affects me.
Oh well, nothing to be done about it. Just teach the Faith, set your gaze on the Supreme Horizon and I am sure that if Baha'u'llah wants guys to grow up, He can make it happen. All in the fullness of time, my dears.
The other thing to note here is that we all screw up, women too, myself included obviously. I guess one difference is that I understand women and their struggles and tests, being one myself. I don't understand men or the tests and struggles and challenges that they experience. So I really cannot judge at all their response to their tests.
I guess, and this is just coming up now as I type, that one way of telling how a man measures up is to compare him to other men in the same situation and see how he fares, what choices he makes. That seems like a fair yardstick. Baha'u'llah tells us to be fair in our judgement. So I guess the standard comparison of one's own experiences and responses doesn't really hold well for men, at least not in emotional or relationship contexts. (Likely in business it's fair).
That kind of makes it more difficult to figure out from where a guy is coming. Brothers, fathers, husbands of good friends - that's the time to ask them.
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